I’ve found that most restaurants are getting gluten savvy and are more than happy to help when they are made aware of the dietary request. I’ve learned some easy tricks to getting the gluten free options with minimal fuss.
#1. don’t jump on the hostess first thing with questions. The hostesses job is to seat you and I’ve rarely found them to know the menu much less diet options. It can also cause protracted discomfort for your dining partners as you go through the who explanation of GF with the hostess.
#2. the BEST time to ask for the GF optlions is when the wait person comes to take your drink order. They are already getting prepped to bring you drinks and picking up a gf menu or asking the chef for options is within their workflow so it usually causes minimal fuss
#3. if they don’t have gf menus then ask the wait person to check with the manager or the chef. If THEY don’t know of any choices then be very careful-the kitchen most likely doesn’t segregate the gluten from other items- even a salad could pose a gluten exposure risk.
#4. the WORST time to ask for the gf options is when the wait person comes to take the order. In almost every case it creates a delay for everyone in that the person will usually need to leave your table to get the menu/chef/answer. I’ve seen cases where the wait person will just verbally give one or two choices instead of providing the full menu in order to not delay the ordering.
The main approach should be to ask the wait person, at a good time in the serving cycle, with minimum disruption to your companions.

